Here are several commands to inspect and modify rpath for both linux and macos.
Inspect rpath
macos: otool -l my.dylib
linux: readelf -d my.so
Inspect binary dependency
macos: otool -L my.dylib
linux: ldd my.so
Change rpath
macos: install_name_tool -change old new my.dylib
linux: patchelf --set-rpath old:new my.so